· “One of my hopes is that we will develop Catholic family
support groups at diocesan and parish level which might not only assist
with marriage preparation, but also with supporting couples in the years
immediately following marriage”
· “A challenge for our preparation and celebration of the World
Meeting of the Families is how we are going to connect with those who,
for whatever reason, perceive that the Church has little or nothing to
say to their particular family situation”
· “We have the joy, and challenge, of presenting the Church’s
clear and positive vision of marriage and family: the Good News that
human life is sacred, that each human being comes from God, who created
us, male and female”
This weekend last year I was preparing to head home from the Family
Synod in Rome. I knew I had been part of something very special and
historic in the life of the Church. We came from every corner of the
world – it was a truly global event – but we belonged together.
We were
‘connected’ – as brothers and sisters in the great universal family that
is the Catholic Church. The theme of the Synod was ‘the vocation and
mission of the family in the Church and contemporary world’.
During
those three weeks we shared our concerns and hopes for family life from
the perspective of our different countries and contexts. And all the
while Pope Francis listened attentively, concentrating deeply on every
word. We were Cum Petro et sub Petro (with Peter, under Peter).
At the end of the Synod we offered Pope Francis reflections in the
form of a final report, inviting him to write an ‘exhortation’ for the
whole world. The result was his powerful and challenging document:
Amoris Laetitia, (The Joy of Love On Love in the Family). The Synod and
Amoris Laetitia provide both the foundation and the mission for the
next great global Catholic event – the World Meeting of Families here in
Dublin in 2018.
Countdown
The countdown has begun and here today, from every corner of Ireland, we
have gathered to begin our reflection on the theme chosen by Pope
Francis for the World Meeting: ‘The Gospel of the Family – Joy for the
World’. Today I have that same sense of belonging and ‘connection’ as I
had at the Synod. Once more I am reminded that the Catholic Church in
Ireland, and throughout the world, is ‘a family of families’ – a network
of believers, homes, communities, parishes and dioceses.
In choosing
to come here today we are affirming that we believe in Family. We are
committed to the Family as the ‘school of humanity’, as fundamental to
society and the common good. We recognise the importance of Family in
the life of the Church; we believe the family is the ‘domestic Church’,
the ‘little Church’; the family is the essential agent of the Good News.
Amoris Laetitia puts it well: ‘The Church is good for the family and
the family is good for the Church (AL87)’.
Our personal experience of Family
When I look back on the Synod, my most vivid memories are of bishops and
others sharing their experiences of growing up in a family. From
Ireland to Fiji, from Myanmar to Nigeria – each of us had our personal
stories of the joys and struggles in our own home and family situations-
most had happy memories of their childhood and youth, but many also had
painful recollections, perhaps because of a breakdown in relationships,
illness, bereavement or economic hardship. It brought home to me the
truth that no family is perfect, and yet every family is precious in the
eyes of God.
Pope Francis puts it like this at the end of Amoris
Laetitia: ‘No family drops down from heaven perfectly formed; families
need constantly to grow and mature in the ability to love. This is a
never-ending vocation born of the full communion of the Trinity, the
profound unity between Christ and his Church, the loving community which
is the Holy Family of Nazareth, and the pure fraternity existing among
the saints of heaven (AL325)’.
I invite you to reflect on your own family story today, to ‘connect’
in thought and prayer with your parents, siblings, grandparents, and
extended family network. Consider what the forthcoming World Meeting of
Families in Dublin might have to say to your family. What are your
hopes for this great global gathering in August 2018? More importantly,
what might we do as Church before, during and after the World Meeting,
to ensure that our proclamation of ‘The Gospel of the Family: Joy for
the World’ is heard and shared by as many people as possible?
It would be so easy for the World Meeting of Families to end up as a
once-off event, an extravaganza which will come and go like a big pop
concert or sports final. What might we do together as Church, as ‘a
family of families’ to harness the grace and opportunity of this time to
‘re-connect’ families with their fundamental calling and to send a
clear and lasting message of hope that Family is Good News for today and
for the future?
Connections
In choosing Ireland to host World Meeting of the Families, Pope Francis
has given a gift to our Church and our country which we have accepted
with humility and openness to the graces that it can bring. My hopes for
the World Meeting keep coming back to that word ‘connection’.
Family is all about ‘connection’. Family connects us to a home, to
‘ar muintir fein’, the people who are our flesh and blood. It links us
to a community, a parish, a county and an ever-expanding network of
people and places. Family also connects us to a history and culture, a
language and tradition, to our ‘DNA’, our roots, to our past, present
and future.
Family connects us to faith and values, to baptism and the
community of believers. I pray that Ireland’s hosting of the World
Meeting of Families will enable families to ‘connect’ and ‘re-connect’
at a whole variety of levels, both with each other and with the wider
‘family of families’ that is their Church.
The connections within family life are sometimes broken by distance,
by disagreement or breakdown, or simply by the pace and distractions of
fast-moving everyday life in the twenty-first century. Sometimes we are
so busy that families lose touch or drift apart for want of quality
time spent together.
Simple things like eating together, making the
effort to be in each other’s company, sharing memories and news of
what’s happening in each other’s lives, and of course praying together
even for a few moments – these are the links that connect and re-connect
families with each other.
Connecting with Family Prayer
During the Synod, Pope Francis led us every day in prayer for the
family, connecting us spiritually to the needs of families throughout
the world, especially those who experience violence, rejection and
division. He offered the Holy Family of Nazareth and the Holy Trinity
as ‘icons’ of family love, prayer and communion.
Might the World
Meeting of Families encourage us to revive the importance of prayer in
and for the family?
Many Irish homes have crucifixes, images of the
Sacred Heart or of Blessed Mother Mary as reminders of God’s presence
among them. Many parents still teach their children to pray Morning and
Night Prayers, the Rosary, Grace before meals and the Angelus. Schools
create spaces and opportunities to teach our children to pray using the
Word of God or Adoration of the Blessed Sacrament. Still, many
families today need prayer guidance and support and this is an area
where Family Associations and Movements like those here today can
connect in with families to offer help.
Connecting with those Preparing for Marriage
With the World Meeting of Families comes an opportunity for us to
connect with young people who are thinking about marriage. Many of them
have picked up a distrust of commitment and institutions, and even fear
that marriage and family may damage their social and economic
independence. There is a tendency to delay or avoid life-long
commitments especially when employers expect young people to be flexible
and available to work long, unsociable hours.
Meanwhile social media
demands so much attention and time and can put serious pressure on
relationships.
Into a seemingly ‘soul-less world’ we have the joy and challenge of
presenting the Church’s clear and positive vision of marriage and
family: the Good News that human life is sacred, that each human being
comes from God, who created us, male and female; that God loves each and
every one of us; that chastity is achievable, healthy and good for our
young people; that self-giving love and commitment in marriage is not
only possible, but is a beautiful and fulfilling vocation which can grow
and develop with the power of God’s grace.
Pope Francis put it powerfully when he said last January: “The
Church, with a renewed sense of responsibility, continues to propose
marriage in its essentials – offspring, good of the couple, unity,
indissolubility, sacramentality – not as ideal only for a few – …but as a
reality that, in the grace of Christ, can be experienced by all the
baptized faithful (to Roman Rota Tribunal, 22 January 2016)”.
To present this challenging vision of marriage and family we need a
network of support for those young people who are preparing to marry.
Of course remote preparation for marriage begins in the family home with
parents as the first witnesses and teachers of the meaning of marriage
and the family.
It continues in Catholic schools through sound
Relationships and Sexuality Education programmes that are in accordance
with the Catholic ethos. With regard to the immediate preparation that
takes place in pre-marriage courses, The World Meeting provides us with a
timely opportunity to evaluate marriage preparation this with the help
of our committed ACCORD facilitators and others. Bishops at the Synod
spoke about the importance of marriage preparation being more directly
connected with parish, with the worshipping community and with
supportive couples and families within the parish.
The pre-catechetical programme that will be launched next Spring for
the World Meeting of the Families will be a valuable resource for
ongoing marriage preparation and support programmes. One of my hopes
for the next few years is that we will develop Catholic family support
groups at diocesan and parish level who might not only assist with
marriage preparation, but also with supporting couples in the years
immediately following marriage.
Intentional Catholic families can
sometimes feel isolated so there is a need for more movements and
associations like those here today to connect with them and to guide and
nourish the vocation and mission of marriage and the family. At the
heart of these initiatives is the conviction that it is primarily
families who minister to other families, married couples who minister to
other married couples, young people who support other young people in
the faith.
Connecting at significant moments
I was thinking recently of the times and places where the Catholic
Church in Ireland already connects with families. We are there at the a
happy moments of family life – like Christenings, Weddings, First
Communion and Confirmation days; and we are there at sad times – like
funerals, anniversary Masses, cemetery Sundays, or in times of great
tragedy or loss in a community. On all these occasions the Church as
mother, gathers her children and families around to share joy or to
provide comfort.
I believe we could make more of these sacred moments
and spaces. We might consider new ways of linking and connecting with
families at significant moments – like important wedding anniversaries,
engagement, when the children are starting school, or young people doing
exams, when family members are sick, or someone is leaving home. Many
parishes have already developed liturgical and pastoral outreaches to
mark these moments: we ought to share this good practice more widely.
Connecting with those who feel excluded
The overwhelming desire among the bishops at the Synod was to reach out
and connect with all families, and especially with those whose homes are
visited by tragedy or violence and those who, for whatever reason, have
experienced breakdown in their relationships and may feel excluded from
the Church. The Synod was clear that we need to be mindful of those who
have begun new relationships and unions, and find sincere and truthful
ways of welcoming and including them in the life and worshipping
community of the Church.
What do we do in these situations, the Synod asked? Do we sit
outside and judge, or do we accompany all our people, presenting the
truth and joy of the Gospel in a loving, charitable way. In Amoris
Laetitia, Pope Francis proposes pastoral discernment and accompaniment
in difficult situations, including a ministry of care to families with
gay members or to those where the marriage relationship has broken down,
always conscious that the Christian message of truth and mercy
converges in Christ. A challenge for our preparation and celebration of
the World Meeting of the Families is how we are going to connect with
those who, for whatever reason, perceive that the Church has little or
nothing to say to their particular family situation.
The Synod Final Report makes it clear: “We the Church start ‘from the
real life situations of families today’, all in need of mercy,
beginning with those who suffer most. With the Merciful Heart of Jesus,
the Church must draw near and guide the weakest of her members who are
experiencing a wounded or lost love, by restoring confidence and hope,
as the beacon light of
a port, or a torch carried in the crowd, to illuminate those who have
lost their way or find themselves in the midst of a storm” (Relatio
Synodi, 55)
The “Gospel of the Family – Joy for the World”
The celebration of the World Meeting of the Families in Ireland is
providing us with an opportunity to distil for our times the beautiful
and prophetic vision of God’s plan for marriage and the family. We
believe that this vision is Good News for society and the world and it
deserves particular support at every level including public policy and
legislation.
Pope Francis says: ‘The family deserves special attention by those
responsible for the common good, because it is the basic unit of
society, which brings strong links of union that underpin human
coexistence and, with the generation and education of children, ensure
the renewal and the future of society.’
The Synod fathers put it this way: ‘A society that neglects the family has lost its access to the future’.
‘Strong links’; ‘Connections’; ‘Belonging’; ‘Access to the future’ –
together, in our homes, parishes, and in across the dioceses of Ireland,
let us seize the opportunity presented by this World Meeting to sow
seeds for the future of the family which will flourish to benefit our
people, our country and our world.
Thank you for your participation here today, for your ongoing support of families and May God bless you all.